There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes not from working too hard, but from never fully stopping. Americans are living inside it.
A report released this week by ResortPass, a platform that sells day passes to hotel pools and spas, found that three-quarters of Americans say they feel mentally or physically drained at least once a week. Twenty-seven percent feel that way every single day. One in five cannot remember the last time they felt fully rested.
The survey, conducted among 2,000 U.S. adults, isn’t exactly a revelation. Burnout has been a cultural talking point for years. But the numbers put a sharper point on something most people already sense: the problem isn’t just that Americans aren’t resting. It’s that they don’t think they’re allowed to.
Seventy-two percent of respondents said they believe relaxation is something people have to earn. Forty percent said they feel guilty when they do try to relax — even as 78 percent said they currently need a break.
Americans Are Leaving Vacation Days on the Table
The result is a kind of collective paralysis. More than half of Americans say they experience 10 or fewer genuinely restorative days in a year. Eleven percent say they experience none at all. Meanwhile, eight in ten working professionals said they expect to end the year with unused paid time off, not because they couldn’t take it, but because work piles up and the pressure to stay available rarely lets up.
“As a culture, we need to start giving ourselves permission to slow down and take breaks without feeling like we’ve done something wrong,” said Michael Wolf, CEO of ResortPass. “Taking time to pause and recharge is essential, and it’s one of the most powerful ways we can show up better in our work, our relationships, and our lives.”
For many people, even attempting a vacation doesn’t solve the problem. Seventy percent of respondents said they need time to recover after returning from a trip. The stress often starts before the first flight: in 70 percent of households, one person handles the bulk of vacation planning — booking flights, researching hotels, building itineraries — effectively converting a break into an extension of the to-do list.
Need a Vacation After the Vacation
One in four travelers reported experiencing a significant travel delay in the past year. Many described airport days, long drives, and layovers as the most exhausting part of any trip.
Parents fare worse. 40% said downtime during family vacations is rare or doesn’t happen. Forty-three percent said they returned from their last family vacation more tired than when they left.
Given all of that, it may not be surprising that attitudes toward vacation are shifting. Sixty-one percent of Americans said they would rather take a smaller, accessible escape this week than wait months for a longer trip. Seventy-six percent said their ideal summer day is calm, low-key, or simple — not a flight, not a resort check-in, not a packed itinerary.
The most commonly cited mood-boosters were unremarkable by design. Eighty-two percent said being near water improves how they feel. Eighty-one percent said they feel noticeably calmer after spending just a few hours by a pool or at a spa.
“We tend to think of rest as something that only happens on a long vacation, but the data shows that even a single day off can dramatically improve our mood,” Wolf said. “Let’s normalize taking breaks and overcome the relaxation guilt that too many of us feel.”
Just Take a Break
The findings also carry a note of nostalgia. When asked what defined their childhood summers, respondents most often cited being outside (51 percent), free time (43 percent), and time with family (39 percent). Only 16 percent said big trips were what they remembered most.
That gap — between what people actually remember and what they spend money, stress, and vacation days trying to manufacture — may be the clearest signal in the report. Rest, historically, didn’t require a flight.
“Sometimes what families really want is a simple day where the kids can swim, parents can relax, and no one has to worry about packing lists or airport delays,” said Nicole Maddern, VP of Marketing at ResortPass.
Whether Americans can give themselves that permission remains, for now, an open question.