Married NASCAR Driver Allegedly Sent Risqué DM to Influencer

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Josh Bilicki is back in the headlines this week, but not for anything happening on track.

A social media post by influencer Sara Blake has been making the rounds after she shared a screenshot of a message she says came from the NASCAR driver.

In the screenshot, the message reads, “Where are you most ticklish?” Blake responded publicly, making it clear she did not appreciate the outreach. “I said I love NASCAR… Not that I was in the market looking for a NASCAR driver,” she wrote. “Stay in your lane.”

Bilicki, who has competed full-time in the NASCAR O’Reilly Series and made over 100 NASCAR Cup Series starts, has not publicly confirmed or denied the message. As it stands, the screenshot itself has not been independently verified.

A Social Media Moment That Took off Fast

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Blake followed up with a video explaining her reaction and her broader frustration. She said her platform is built to help athletes connect with fans and grow their brands, not deal with what she described as inappropriate direct messages.

The post quickly sparked a wave of reactions online. Some brushed it off as a joke, while others criticized the message or defended Blake’s response.

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Like many social media moments, the conversation moved fast. It also drifted away from anything productive pretty quickly.

This Is More Than One Message

This is where the story grows beyond one alleged DM. Moments like this happen all the time; they just do not always go public.

Spend a few minutes scrolling through any comment section, and you will see how comfortable people have become saying things they would never say in person. That is the public version.

Private messages tend to push that even further. The filter gets thinner, not stronger.

Let’s Be Real About It

At a certain point, this does not need to be complicated. Just stop sending messages like this.

Not “be more careful.” Not “read the room better.” Just stop. Most people do not want these kinds of DMs. Not from strangers, not from influencers, and not from celebrities.

Status does not make it more welcome. It just makes it more likely to blow up when it goes public. Platforms like X, Instagram, and LinkedIn are not dating apps. It is pretty safe to say most people are not there looking for that kind of interaction.

A Rule That Saves You Every Time

If you would not be comfortable with your significant other, your employer, or the entire internet seeing a message, do not send it. And honestly, even that might be giving too much credit. A lot of people sending messages like this clearly think it is fine.

So simplify it even further. Just do not send it. Do not send weird messages. Do not send suggestive messages to people who did not ask for them. Do not test the line.

If you catch yourself thinking, “Maybe this is a good idea,” it probably is not. Ask someone with better judgment, or just close the app and move on.

The Reality of the Internet Now

It is also worth remembering that not everything online is fully verified. Screenshots can lack context, and in this case, the message itself has not been confirmed.

However, that does not really change the bigger takeaway. Anything sent privately today can become public in seconds.

Once it is out there, you do not control how it is shared, interpreted, or remembered. That part is out of your hands.

As Blake put it, stay in your lane. It is simple advice, and clearly still needed.

Author: Michael Andrew

Michael is one of the founders of Guessing Headlights, a longtime car enthusiast whose childhood habit of guessing cars by their headlights with friends became the inspiration behind the site.

He has a soft spot for Jeeps, Corvettes, and street and rat rods. His daily driver is a Wrangler 4xe, and his current fun vehicle is a 1954 International R100. His taste leans toward the odd and overlooked, with a particular appreciation for pop-up headlights and T-tops, practicality be damned.

Michael currently works out of an undisclosed location, not for safety, but so he can keep his automotive opinions unfiltered and unapologetic.

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